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Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS): The Therapy Everyone is Talking About

Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS): The Therapy Everyone is Talking About

March 4, 2023

Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) is a relatively new and innovative form of therapy, developed by psychotherapist Richard Schwartz, that has been gaining increasing popularity in recent years. This approach to therapy helps individuals to understand and resolve the inner conflicts and traumas that exist within their mind, soul, and body. What is Internal Family Systems Therapy? There … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Self-care, Therapy Tagged With: anxiety, claire de boer, Core Self, counselling, depression, IFS, inner conflict, Internal Family Systems Therapy, Richard Schwartz, safe haven counselling, self-compassion

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): Living with and Understanding a Complex Mental Illness

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): Living with and Understanding a Complex Mental Illness

February 20, 2023

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a complex and often misunderstood mental health condition. It affects approximately 1-2% of the general population and is characterized by intense and unstable emotions, impulsive behaviour, and a distorted sense of self-identity. Living with this mental illness can be a challenging and isolating experience, but with the right support and treatment it is … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Attachment, CBT, Mental Illness, Personality types, Relationships, Self esteem, Therapy, Trauma Tagged With: anxiety, Borderline personality disorder, BPD, claire de boer, counselling, depression, safe haven counselling, therapy

5 Ways To Feel Better Without Therapy: Part Three, Managing Emotions

5 Ways To Feel Better Without Therapy: Part Three, Managing Emotions

February 28, 2022

Have you ever reacted to someone in the heat of the moment and afterwards looked back wishing you had responded differently? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by emotion and notice it affects your ability to focus or be present? Most of us find ourselves in these situations some of the time, but if this happens often to you, you may be having problems regulating (calming) your … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anxiety, Self-care, stress, Therapy, Trauma Tagged With: anxiety, claire de boer, depression, emotional regulation, hyperarousal, hypoarousal, panic, therapy, window of tolerance

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5 Ways To Feel Better Right Now Without Therapy: Part Two, Reframe Your Perspective

January 22, 2022

"Feel the feelings, drop the story." Pema Chodron. Studies show we have between 60,000 and 90,000 thoughts per day. That's a lot, and if they all contributed towards making ourselves into the best human we can possibly be, happiness would seem far less elusive. Unfortunately many of those thoughts are repeated multiple times throughout the day. Some of them may be checklists of things we don't … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anxiety, CBT, Depression, Self esteem, Self-care, Therapy Tagged With: anxiety, CBT, claire de boer, inner critic, inner dialogue, maladaptive thoughts, perceptions, safe haven counselling, self-compassion, self-esteem, self-kindness

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What to Do When You Can’t Change the Outcome

August 23, 2019

Have you ever felt powerless? As though you are no longer in the driving seat and not really sure if you ever were? No need to answer; it's part of the human condition. We like to be in control—to know that the small plot of land we are in charge of, namely our own lives, are ours to groom, pull out weeds and plant seeds as we wish. But our neat little gardens rarely stay well manicured—before … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anxiety, CBT, Journaling, Self-care, stress Tagged With: anxiety, claire de boer, control, counselling, faith, God, self care, Surrender, viktor frankl

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The Work of Grief: Making it Through the First Few Months

May 3, 2018

"If, as a culture, we don’t bear witness to grief, the burden of loss is placed entirely upon the bereaved, while the rest of us avert our eyes and wait for those in mourning to stop being sad, to let go, to move on, to cheer up. And if they don’t — if they have loved too deeply, if they do wake each morning thinking, I cannot continue to live — well, then we pathologize their pain; we call their … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Self-care, stress Tagged With: 5 stages of grief, anxiety, bereavement, depression, divorce, grief, grief and loss, mourning, trauma

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Anxiety Quiz

1. Feeling nervous, anxious, or on edge.

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Several days

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2. Not being able to stop or control worrying.

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3. Worrying too much about different things.

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4. Trouble relaxing

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5. Being so restless that it’s hard to sit still

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6. Becoming easily annoyed or irritable.

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7. Feeling afraid as if something awful might happen.

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Depression Quiz

1. Sadness

I do not feel sad.

I feel sad much of the time.

I am sad all the time.

I am so sad or unhappy that I can't stand it.

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2. Pessimism

I am not discouraged about my future.

I feel more discouraged about my future than I used to.

I do not expect things to work out for me.

I feel my future is hopeless and will only get worse.

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3. Past Failure

I do not feel like a failure.

I have failed more than I should have.

As I look back, I see a lot of failures.

I feel I am a total failure as a person.

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4. Loss of Pleasure

I get as much pleasure as I ever did from the things I enjoy.

I don't enjoy things as much as I used to.

I get very little pleasure from the things I used to enjoy.

I can't get any pleasure from the things I used to enjoy.

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5. Guilty Feelings

I don't feel particularly guilty.

I feel guilty over many things I have done or should have done.

I feel quite guilty most of the time.

I feel guilty all of the time.

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6. Punishment Feelings

I don't feel I am being punished.

I feel I may be punished.

I expect to be punished.

I feel I am being punished.

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7. Self-Dislike

I feel the same about myself as ever.

I have lost confidence in myself.

I am disappointed in myself.

I dislike myself.

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8. Self-Criticalness

I don't criticize or blame myself more than usual.

I am more critical of myself than I used to be.

I criticize myself for all of my faults.

I blame myself for everything bad that happens.

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9. Suicidal Thoughts or Wishes

I don't have any thoughts of killing myself.

I have thoughts of killing myself, but I would not carry them out.

I would like to kill myself.

I would kill myself if I had the chance.

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10. Crying

I don't cry anymore than I used to.

I cry more than I used to.

I cry over every little thing.

I feel like crying, but I can't.

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11. Agitation

I am no more restless or wound up than usual.

I feel more restless or wound up than usual.

I am so restless or agitated, it's hard to stay still.

I am so restless or agitated that I have to keep moving or doing something.

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12. Loss of Interest

I have not lost interest in other people or activities.

I am less interested in other people or things than before.

I have lost most of my interest in other people or things.

It's hard to get interested in anything.

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13. Indecisiveness

I make decisions about as well as ever.

I find it more difficult to make decisions than usual.

I have much greater difficulty in making decisions than I used to.

I have trouble making any decisions.

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14. Worthlessness

I do not feel I am worthless.

I don't consider myself as worthwhile and useful as I used to.

I feel more worthless as compared to others.

I feel utterly worthless.

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15. Loss of Energy

I have as much energy as ever.

I have less energy than I used to have.

I don't have enough energy to do very much.

I don't have enough energy to do anything.

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16. Changes in Sleeping Pattern

I have not experienced any change in my sleeping.

I sleep somewhat more than usual.

I sleep somewhat less than usual.

I sleep a lot more than usual.

I sleep a lot less than usual.

I sleep most of the day.

I wake up 1-2 hours early and can't get back to sleep.

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17. Irritability

I am not more irritable than usual.

I am more irritable than usual.

I am much more irritable than usual.

I am irritable all the time.

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18. Changes in Appetite

I have not experienced any change in my appetite.

My appetite is somewhat less than usual.

My appetite is somewhat greater than usual.

My appetite is much less than before.

My appetite is much greater than usual.

I have no appetite at all.

I crave food all the time.

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19. Concentration Difficulty

I can concentrate as well as ever.

I can't concentrate as well as usual.

It's hard to keep my mind on anything for very long.

I find I can't concentrate on anything.

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20. Tiredness or Fatigue

I am no more tired or fatigued than usual.

I get more tired or fatigued more easily than usual.

I am too tired or fatigued to do a lot of the things I used to do.

I am too tired or fatigued to do most of the things I used to do.

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21. Loss of Interest in Sex

I have not noticed any recent change in my interest in sex.

I am less interested in sex than I used to be.

I am much less interested in sex now.

I have lost interest in sex completely.

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