“I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” ~ Carl Jung
One of the main reasons we become stuck in life, particularly in the area of relationships, is because we hold on to what has happened to us in the past, be that consciously or unconsciously. It’s not that we necessarily want to hold on, moreover it’s that we simply don’t know how to let go. Counselling will help you to understand where your patterns behaviour come from, and how to move away from them in a healthy manner.
Whatever we experience in our formative years becomes the lens through which we see life—it formulates our worldview. Once that worldview is firmly in place, it becomes the mantra by which we live, whether that mantra is healthy or destructive. However, this doesn’t mean we can’t change our mantra. Awareness, support, community, and a willingness to think and behave in a way that fits in with who you are at the core right now are the keys to lasting change.
People begin to heal the moment they feel seen and heard. My role as your counsellor is to support you in a way that other people in your life may be unable to support you. There are many paths to healing, change and growth, but one essential element is to be heard and understood by at least one other person in your life in an empathic and non-judgmental way.
Together we will discover when and where you became stuck on your journey and what needs to happen to get you back on track. I offer a safe, non-judgemental, open, and warm environment where you can take the time and space you need to work through whatever difficulty you may be facing.
My work is client centered, which means I believe you have the answers and capability within you to heal, change and grow. I will collaborate with you and guide you, but you are the expert on your life.
I believe that as individuals we are more than mind and body; we are also spiritual beings with a vital connection to each other and our planet. Healing, therefore, is threefold. Our past traumas are remembered and stored not only in the mind, but also in the body and soul. Using mindfulness, breath work, Gestalt therapy, Narrative therapy, and existential theory, my hope is that you will experience healing in your mental health, physical well-being and spiritual relationship to self.
In my work with couples and groups I draw on the principles of the emotionally focused therapy and attachment theories, approaching problems from both emotional and cognitive perspectives.
Areas of Counselling Support
- Alleviate the symptoms of trauma using EMDR
- Loss of a loved one due to death
- Empty nesting
- Midlife (menopause, empty nesting, divorce)
- Career change
- Communication problems
- Loss of emotional intimacy
- Loss of physical intimacy
- Financial conflicts
- Lack of self confidence
- Feeling “not enough”
- Poor body image
- Feeling stuck in a relationship
- Fearful of change
- Numbness and feeling empty
If you are dealing with an issue you don’t see listed here, please contact me and I will let you know if I can be of help. If I am unable to support you with your particular difficulty, I will suggest other counsellors who can.
I am a member of the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors (BCACC).