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Couples Counselling

Couples Counselling in Surrey, Safe Haven Counselling

Are you feeling lonely, disconnected and not valued in your marriage or long-term relationship? Do you wish things could be as they were at the beginning?

Perhaps you feel like you’ve tried everything, but nothing seems to work. It may be time to seek professional help.

Couples therapy is a safe and supportive environment where you and your partner can work through your issues and regain the love and connection you once had. Our experienced therapists are trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and/or Gottman Therapy, both designed to help couples like you overcome the challenges they face and build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.

In couples therapy, you will:

  • Learn effective communication skills to help you better understand each other and avoid misunderstandings.
  • Identify patterns in your relationship that may be contributing to your problems and learn how to break these cycles.
  • Explore the root causes of your issues and work together to find solutions.
  • Develop new coping strategies to help you manage stress and conflict.
  • Rebuild trust and intimacy in your relationship.

If you’re ready to invest in your relationship and take the first step towards a happier, healthier future, we’re here to help.

BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION TODAY

Relationship Counselling with a Clinical Counsellor

Healthy relationships look different for every couple. What one couple views as a healthy marriage or relationship, another may see as restrictive and suffocating, so it is important not to compare your relationship to others. The need for counselling typically arises when one or both partner(s) is dissatisfied with the quality of their relationship. Issues that often arise include poor communication, loss of physical and/or emotional intimacy, infidelity, and a conflict of needs/expectations.

Each of our counsellors has a slightly different approach to their couples work. We are trained in both Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman method, the two most effective and researched modalities in couples therapy. You may meet all three together right from the outset, or do one or two individual sessions at the beginning before coming together. Generally we like to meet couples first together to have an understanding of the issues arising in the relationship.

Individual counselling

Sometimes, a partner may be unsure whether they want to remain in the relationship. In this case, it’s beneficial for them to have individual counselling to process their concerns, feelings, and reasons for confusion in the relationship. Individual counselling is also beneficial when one or both partners have unresolved issues from the past that are projected onto the relationship. Such issues might include trauma, neglect, or abuse.

Your mental health is important

If someone is struggling with unresolved issues, trauma counselling services can be beneficial not only for the couple but also for the individual. Anxiety, or anger, towards a previous romantic partner can leave clients feeling stuck. If our past traumas are not confronted, we can easily bring them to every new relationship we try to build. This goes beyond romantic relationships.

Couples counselling services

We aim to meet with both of you as soon as possible. The problems that have arisen in the relationship were created together and are, therefore, best healed together. Our approach is to look at when and how the problems began and what may be the root issues. We will explore your attachment styles and how these affect the way you communicate and your needs in the relationship. Therapy is always emotionally focused, with a key emphasis on authenticity and vulnerability, something that may be new for both partners.

If you would like to make an appointment for a free consultation or individual/couples session, please email us at info@safehavenbc.com or complete the online booking form.

Location

Ocean Pointe Business Centre
#404 – 1688 152 St,
Surrey, BC
V4A 4N2

Session Hours

Mon: 10:30am-6:30pm
Tues: 10:30am-6:30pm
Weds: 10:30am-6:30pm
Thurs: 10:30am-6:30pm
Fri: 10:30am-1:00pm

Get in Touch

Phone: (604) 337-0152
Email: info@safehavenbc.com

 



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Depression Quiz

1. Sadness

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I feel sad much of the time.

I am sad all the time.

I am so sad or unhappy that I can't stand it.

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2. Pessimism

I am not discouraged about my future.

I feel more discouraged about my future than I used to.

I do not expect things to work out for me.

I feel my future is hopeless and will only get worse.

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3. Past Failure

I do not feel like a failure.

I have failed more than I should have.

As I look back, I see a lot of failures.

I feel I am a total failure as a person.

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4. Loss of Pleasure

I get as much pleasure as I ever did from the things I enjoy.

I don't enjoy things as much as I used to.

I get very little pleasure from the things I used to enjoy.

I can't get any pleasure from the things I used to enjoy.

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5. Guilty Feelings

I don't feel particularly guilty.

I feel guilty over many things I have done or should have done.

I feel quite guilty most of the time.

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6. Punishment Feelings

I don't feel I am being punished.

I feel I may be punished.

I expect to be punished.

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7. Self-Dislike

I feel the same about myself as ever.

I have lost confidence in myself.

I am disappointed in myself.

I dislike myself.

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8. Self-Criticalness

I don't criticize or blame myself more than usual.

I am more critical of myself than I used to be.

I criticize myself for all of my faults.

I blame myself for everything bad that happens.

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9. Suicidal Thoughts or Wishes

I don't have any thoughts of killing myself.

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I would like to kill myself.

I would kill myself if I had the chance.

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10. Crying

I don't cry anymore than I used to.

I cry more than I used to.

I cry over every little thing.

I feel like crying, but I can't.

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11. Agitation

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I am so restless or agitated, it's hard to stay still.

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12. Loss of Interest

I have not lost interest in other people or activities.

I am less interested in other people or things than before.

I have lost most of my interest in other people or things.

It's hard to get interested in anything.

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13. Indecisiveness

I make decisions about as well as ever.

I find it more difficult to make decisions than usual.

I have much greater difficulty in making decisions than I used to.

I have trouble making any decisions.

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14. Worthlessness

I do not feel I am worthless.

I don't consider myself as worthwhile and useful as I used to.

I feel more worthless as compared to others.

I feel utterly worthless.

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15. Loss of Energy

I have as much energy as ever.

I have less energy than I used to have.

I don't have enough energy to do very much.

I don't have enough energy to do anything.

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16. Changes in Sleeping Pattern

I have not experienced any change in my sleeping.

I sleep somewhat more than usual.

I sleep somewhat less than usual.

I sleep a lot more than usual.

I sleep a lot less than usual.

I sleep most of the day.

I wake up 1-2 hours early and can't get back to sleep.

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17. Irritability

I am not more irritable than usual.

I am more irritable than usual.

I am much more irritable than usual.

I am irritable all the time.

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18. Changes in Appetite

I have not experienced any change in my appetite.

My appetite is somewhat less than usual.

My appetite is somewhat greater than usual.

My appetite is much less than before.

My appetite is much greater than usual.

I have no appetite at all.

I crave food all the time.

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19. Concentration Difficulty

I can concentrate as well as ever.

I can't concentrate as well as usual.

It's hard to keep my mind on anything for very long.

I find I can't concentrate on anything.

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20. Tiredness or Fatigue

I am no more tired or fatigued than usual.

I get more tired or fatigued more easily than usual.

I am too tired or fatigued to do a lot of the things I used to do.

I am too tired or fatigued to do most of the things I used to do.

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21. Loss of Interest in Sex

I have not noticed any recent change in my interest in sex.

I am less interested in sex than I used to be.

I am much less interested in sex now.

I have lost interest in sex completely.

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