Are you feeling lonely, disconnected and not valued in your marriage or long-term relationship? Do you wish things could be as they were at the beginning?
Perhaps you feel like you’ve tried everything, but nothing seems to work. It may be time to seek professional help.
Couples therapy is a safe and supportive environment where you and your partner can work through your issues and regain the love and connection you once had. Our experienced therapists are trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and/or Gottman Therapy, both designed to help couples like you overcome the challenges they face and build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.
In couples therapy, you will:
- Learn effective communication skills to help you better understand each other and avoid misunderstandings.
- Identify patterns in your relationship that may be contributing to your problems and learn how to break these cycles.
- Explore the root causes of your issues and work together to find solutions.
- Develop new coping strategies to help you manage stress and conflict.
- Rebuild trust and intimacy in your relationship.
If you’re ready to invest in your relationship and take the first step towards a happier, healthier future, we’re here to help.
Relationship Counselling with a Clinical Counsellor
Healthy relationships look different for every couple. What one couple views as a healthy marriage or relationship, another may see as restrictive and suffocating, so it is important not to compare your relationship to others. The need for counselling typically arises when one or both partner(s) is dissatisfied with the quality of their relationship. Issues that often arise include poor communication, loss of physical and/or emotional intimacy, infidelity, and a conflict of needs/expectations.
Each of our counsellors has a slightly different approach to their couples work. We are trained in both Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman method, the two most effective and researched modalities in couples therapy. You may meet all three together right from the outset, or do one or two individual sessions at the beginning before coming together. Generally we like to meet couples first together to have an understanding of the issues arising in the relationship.
Sometimes, a partner may be unsure whether they want to remain in the relationship. In this case, it’s beneficial for them to have individual counselling to process their concerns, feelings, and reasons for confusion in the relationship. Individual counselling is also beneficial when one or both partners have unresolved issues from the past that are projected onto the relationship. Such issues might include trauma, neglect, or abuse.
Your mental health is important
If someone is struggling with unresolved issues, trauma counselling services can be beneficial not only for the couple but also for the individual. Anxiety, or anger, towards a previous romantic partner can leave clients feeling stuck. If our past traumas are not confronted, we can easily bring them to every new relationship we try to build. This goes beyond romantic relationships.
Couples counselling services
We aim to meet with both of you as soon as possible. The problems that have arisen in the relationship were created together and are, therefore, best healed together. Our approach is to look at when and how the problems began and what may be the root issues. We will explore your attachment styles and how these affect the way you communicate and your needs in the relationship. Therapy is always emotionally focused, with a key emphasis on authenticity and vulnerability, something that may be new for both partners.