“We do as we have been done by.”― John Bowlby Have you ever noticed yourself repeating certain patterns of behaviour in your romantic relationships? Perhaps you wonder why you always attract the same kind of person, or why you often end up in the same negative cycle when you fight with your partner. Many of these behaviours evolve from your attachment style, a way of relating to others … [Read more...]
When Is it Time to Seek Couples Counselling?
When Is it Time to Seek Couples Counselling? If you are part of a long-term love relationship you are likely familiar with the ups and downs that accompany it. The nature of being intimately involved with someone you share your life with is that inner and outer conflict will arise as you try to meet each others needs. All relationships go through difficult seasons. Some of the time … [Read more...]
Why Self-Love is a Necessary Part of Loving Others
"Your problem is you’re too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”- Ram Dass If you had asked me a decade ago whether I loved myself the question would have baffled me. Self-love? What does that even mean? Does anyone really love themselves? And if they do, isn't that the bedrock of egoism and navel gazing? It wouldn't have taken me long to give you an answer; that is, if I was feeling … [Read more...]
Why Facing Your Biggest Fear Will Be Your Greatest Breakthrough
When my ex-husband and I separated a few years ago my biggest fear was loneliness. Push me out of a plane (parachute attached of course); dangle me from a 2,000 ft tall building (knock me out first), but please God don't let me be alone. It seems God is messing with me though, because here I am, facing my worst fear, the one I've spent a lifetime avoiding. Don't we always eventually come … [Read more...]
Here’s One Communication Tool That Will Transform Your Relationships
I'm pretty good at communication. In fact writing, talking, listening, empathy...that's my thing. It's a strength I take pride in and a gift I love to give back to others. I've cruised along for decades believing "I got this" in the area of close relationships and helping people through life's challenges. In fact I am so sure of my ability in this area that I have transitioned into the world of … [Read more...]