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Why Some People Dread Winter: Coping with Seasonal Affective Disorder
As the days get shorter and temperatures start to dip, a surprising number of people find that their mood takes a nosedive as well. If
Why Couples Therapy Might Just Be the Best Investment You Make
Let’s face it, maintaining a long-term relationship is hard work. Just like that favourite plant in your living room that needs the right amount of
Anxiety Toolkit: 7 Practical Tools for Regulation and Relief
We have all felt the intense physical and emotional overwhelm that comes with feeling anxious. For some this may be a rare event that is
Divorce Recovery: Making it Through the First few Months
The unraveling of a long-term love relationship, be it a breakup or divorce, is often an extremely painful experience that can leave us feeling shattered,
Understand Your Attachment Style to Help Create Emotional Safety in Your Relationships
Do you know your attachment style? Knowing and understanding how you relate to others via your attachment style will help you to create an emotionally
Body Image and Mental Health: Challenging Societal Norms, Fostering Self Love
The issue of body image shows up in my counselling room daily. It’s not the pain point that usually brings clients in, but it is
Understanding Trauma Bonding: Breaking Free and Healing
“Many survivors have such profound deficiencies in self-protection that they can barely imagine themselves in a position of agency or choice.” – Judith Lewis Herman
Childhood Trauma: Why You’re Struggling to Move On
Fact: people who experience trauma in childhood are three times more likely to struggle with a mental disorder in adulthood. Also fact: it is possible
Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS): The Therapy Everyone is Talking About
Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) is a relatively new and innovative form of therapy, developed by psychotherapist Richard Schwartz, that has been gaining increasing popularity
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): Living with and Understanding a Complex Mental Illness
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a complex and often misunderstood mental health condition. It affects approximately 1-2% of the general population and is characterized by
How to Help Someone Through Depression
Discovering that a friend or family member is suffering with clinical depression can leave us feeling scared, worried and unsure of how to help. Learning
Understanding Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based approach to couples counselling which focuses on understanding and managing the emotional states of clients. In particular, EFT
Emotional Boundaries: What They are and How to Create Them
When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. Brené Brown Boundaries. It’s a word that gets flung around
Should You Seek Grief Counselling for the Death of a Loved One?
Grief is a part of the human experience none of us can escape. When it comes it can feel like the world has been pulled
Is this a Midlife Crisis or Depression?
Are you in your 40s or 50s and feeling empty and low for no apparent reason? If so, you may be in the throes of
Attachment Styles: What Everyone Needs to Know
“We do as we have been done by.”― John Bowlby Have you ever noticed yourself repeating certain patterns of behaviour in your romantic relationships? Perhaps you
When Is it Time to Seek Couples Counselling?
When Is it Time to Seek Couples Counselling? If you are part of a long-term love relationship you are likely familiar with the ups and
Stop the Social Comparison and Feel Better Without Therapy
Social comparison is one of the most insidious and destructive games we can play, and nearly always leads to a decrease in mood. It is
5 Ways To Feel Better Without Therapy: Part Three, Managing Emotions
Have you ever reacted to someone in the heat of the moment and afterwards looked back wishing you had responded differently? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by emotion and notice it affects your ability to focus or be present? Most of us find ourselves in these situations some of the time, but if this happens often to you, you may be having problems regulating (calming) your emotions.
5 Ways To Feel Better Right Now Without Therapy: Part Two, Reframe Your Perspective
We don’t see the world as it is; we see it according to our own experiences and perceptions. Your reality is different from my reality, which is different from your neighbour’s reality.
5 Ways To Feel Better Right Now Without Therapy: Part One, Cultivate Awareness
I’m a therapist, so believe me when I say that therapy is good and helpful and a lifeline for many people. If I didn’t believe
What to Do When You Can’t Change the Outcome
Have you ever felt powerless? As though you are no longer in the driving seat and not really sure if you ever were? No need
Why is Self-Kindness So Challenging?
Why do we find it so hard to be kind to ourselves? What is it we’re afraid of? We deprive ourselves when we make self-kindness
Why Self-Love is a Necessary Part of Loving Others
“Your problem is you’re too busy holding onto your unworthiness.” – Ram Dass If you had asked me a decade ago whether I loved myself
How to do Busy Well
The art of busyness has become a competition and doing busy well is an art. The idea that “you can’t possibly be as busy as
The Work of Grief: Making it Through the First Few Months
“If, as a culture, we don’t bear witness to grief, the burden of loss is placed entirely upon the bereaved, while the rest of us
Managing Depression: 13 Lifestyle Changes That Heal
“Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also harder to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain
Why Facing Your Biggest Fear Will Be Your Greatest Breakthrough
When my ex-husband and I separated a few years ago my biggest fear was loneliness. Push me out of a plane (parachute attached of course);
How to Make Peace with your Body
**Disclaimer: this article is not intended for persons dealing with eating disorders.** I’ve struggled with my body image since the age of 10. Whether I’ve
10 Ways To Ease Depression With Only Your Pen
“Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”
Need a New Perspective on Holiday Stress?
For decades we’ve been told this one thing: stress makes you sick. How many times, when you’ve been knee-deep in tension, anxiety and all-around exhaustion,
10 Ways To Manage Your Emotions
“Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions.” – Elizabeth Gilbert Do you ever feel like your emotions
Here’s One Communication Tool That Will Transform Your Relationships
I’m pretty good at communication. In fact writing, talking, listening, empathy…that’s my thing. It’s a strength I take pride in and a gift I love
21 Simple Self-Care Strategies For Daily Living
“Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths.” – Etty Hillesum Self-care. Few people practice it, many
