"Your problem is you’re too busy holding onto your unworthiness.” - Ram Dass If you had asked me a decade ago whether I loved myself the question would have baffled me. Self-love? What does that even mean? Does anyone really love themselves? And if they do, isn't that the bedrock of egoism and navel gazing? It wouldn't have taken me long to give you an answer; that is, if I was feeling like … [Read more...]
How to do Busy Well
The art of busyness has become a competition (tweet that!) The idea that "you can't possibly be as busy as I am," is continually implied in our daily conversations, as though the busiest people are somehow the most accomplished and successful. I'm tired of busy, aren't you? I'm tired that as a culture we are using it as an excuse to not show up, both for others and for ourselves. We … [Read more...]
The Work of Grief: Making it Through the First Few Months
"If, as a culture, we don’t bear witness to grief, the burden of loss is placed entirely upon the bereaved, while the rest of us avert our eyes and wait for those in mourning to stop being sad, to let go, to move on, to cheer up. And if they don’t — if they have loved too deeply, if they do wake each morning thinking, I cannot continue to live — well, then we pathologize their pain; we call their … [Read more...]
Managing Depression: 13 Lifestyle Changes That Heal
“Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also harder to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say “My tooth is aching” than to say “My heart is broken.” ― C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain I'll preface this article by saying you won't find anything new about depression in here. No miracle cure, no breakthrough … [Read more...]
Why Facing Your Biggest Fear Will Be Your Greatest Breakthrough
When my ex-husband and I separated a few years ago my biggest fear was loneliness. Push me out of a plane (parachute attached of course); dangle me from a 2,000 ft tall building (knock me out first), but please God don't let me be alone. It seems God is messing with me though, because here I am, facing my worst fear, the one I've spent a lifetime avoiding. Don't we always eventually come … [Read more...]
How to Make Peace with your Body
**Disclaimer: this article is not intended for persons dealing with eating disorders.** I've struggled with my body image since the age of 10. Whether I've actually been overweight or, in the eyes of the world, "skinny," my self-perception has always been fat...fat...fat. I think I've actually been called "fat" only once. I was about twelve and it stung like nothing had ever stung before. No … [Read more...]